Tips on dating divorced dads
That relationship produced a daughter who was 3 at the time that the divorce took place.I got remarried 2 1/2 years ago and we now have a son who just turned 11 months old this week.All this can be harmful in the long run because until he’s healed and whole, the comparison to his former relationship will remain for quite a while.When he’s moved on from that relationship, he can better assess the quality of a new one.I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than to get married and end up going through another divorce. My divorce ended 9 years ago and as I mentioned, I got married just over 2 years ago. Throughout that time I dated a bit and I learned a thing or two about the unique issues that one encounters dating as a single dad.I wrote Now that I've given that background on the journey I've taken, let me share with you a bit of what I conveyed in my response to the woman who emailed me.I couldn’t allow her to feel as if a new love in my life means she’s now on the backburner, as the expression goes.Avoid the extremes when meeting the kids: When a dad has been convinced that a new love is a “keeper”, inevitably he will introduce her to his kids. These are: trying too much to impress them; and becoming their competitors.
So it’s important to take things slow and get to know the man behind the mask.
Most women who date a dad would like to know that their kids like them.
Some go to great lengths to sway the kids towards them. Their affection is not easily won – and it certainly cannot be bought.
So they buy them gifts, take them shopping and really stretch the limits trying to impress them. They might readily accept the gifts but might not so readily accept the new person.
In their view, by doing this, they’ll win the kids over and consequently, make it easier for a family to be formed. The other extreme is becoming the kids’ competitors.