Single life dating
Amanda has counselled hundreds of individuals and couples, and, as a lecturer in psychosexual therapy and sexual health counselling at Sydney University, is an expert in the field.
Here, Amanda gives some stellar advice to help new singles build their confidence and emotional health after a long-term relationship breakup, and navigate the new dating rules. Anyone who’s recently broken up from a long-term relationship knows how emotionally scary facing a new life – sans your ex – can be.
You may feel nervous, lack confidence, and if you have children, the thought of having a new partner or dating again can seem overwhelming and much more complicated.
But all of these feelings are completely normal, says Amanda.
“Sometimes transitioning from breakups and back on the dating scene can be difficult,” says Amanda.
“You don’t need to avoid your married friends, but you can’t expect them to go out clubbing with you if they have kids and a husband at home.
Create a support network that’s going to encourage you and support you during this life stage.
With the accessibility of online dating, people are quite happy to meet up during the week for a coffee. Amanda says coming out of a long-term relationship can often mean we need to look at how we want to represent ourselves.And your expectations are going to be very different too.“Some people go back into the dating game with expectations of what it was like in their past,” explains Amanda.So rather than thinking about how to tell someone your life story, ask yourself if they really need to know this information.Thinking this way can be more empowering and validating of where you are in your life.