LP: Doing an activity is always better than doing something passive.
It reveals more about the other person, and it takes the focus off being on a date.
You talk to your partner as much as possible beforehand, throughout and after to make sure everyone is having a lovely experience.
HS: People who practise kink tend to be more self-aware because they’ve done a little more reflecting, not just on the person they are when they’re dating, but who they are in the shadows.
On a quest to live a more sex-positive life and gain confidence in navigating the complicated world of dating, I contacted sex expert and professional dominatrix Lady Pim as well as founder of the Ritual Chamber, Headmistress Shahrazad for tips in the art of confidence, relationships and sexuality.
Here’s what they had to say about dating and the rules around it.
HS: Get really comfortable with setting boundaries. If they’re not interested, great – on to the next person.It should be taken as seriously as any other major decision in life—with prayer, careful investigation, and family involvement.First of all, Muslim youth develop very close friendships with their same-sex peers.I still wanted to play and practise kink on a regular basis, and it turned into this really fun thing.Mistress Shahrazad: I grew up with a very religious upbringing and I didn’t see a lot of empowering roles for women within that.
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