Dating a girl 4 years older
She says, “I asked myself, ‘Will I be willing to submit even if his leadership is not as mature as I would like?'” Leah also worried she might not always be able to meet Travis’ physical needs and wondered if he might one day regret marrying an “old woman” who couldn’t keep up with all of his activities.He explains that during his years at a Bible college, he gave his desire for a spouse over to the Lord and asked Him to determine who his wife would be.After God prompted Travis to say the exact words Leah had been praying for, the answer seemed obvious. After spending a few days trying to adjust to the fact that the handsome co-leader of my small group was seven years my junior, I had just realized that he was actually eight years younger!
A friend once told me that the acceptable age difference was half the older person’s age plus seven. I guess it was because I’d heard two or three stories of the woman being seven years older, so I’d sort of decided that was the outer limit of age difference acceptability. (And I would hit 31 a month before his next birthday.) Feeling defeated, I sat at the small wooden table in Starbucks, where I was meeting Kevin for the first time since my startling discovery. In case you’re wondering, I married that guy eight months later. I don’t know why this one year made such a difference to me.At one point, he even confided that it had been his dream to have a wife and family since he was a young teen.I realized that Kevin was an “old soul,” and we were ready for the same things.