Christian dating how far is too far
So in that sense, any form of physical intimacy with a view to experiencing pleasure and leading to intercourse is sex. You can’t get away from it – the real ‘marriage’ – the real joining and becoming one, happens when the man and woman come together physically – it’s then they become one spiritually – the physical is the ‘glue’ that is never meant to be pulled apart – and in fact cannot be without causing serious harm to spouses and children if they are around.
So sex is really a sliding scale that starts with a kiss, and ends well… Now, if we weren’t made in the image of God, and we were just meant to wallow around on the level of animals (remember they do not have the same type of deep and advanced emotional makeup as humans and cannot think in the same rational or irrational way), and fool about and move from partner to partner for either procreational reasons or just pure gratification, then this would be fine – who cares? Now it’s crystal clear in the Bible that we are only meant to have one spouse for LIFE (we’re meant to rise above the animal kingdom in preparation for God giving us back and restoring our etherial bodies we lost in Eden?
So this is going to take a bit of time to explain so bear with me.
I am not going to tell you what to do – just take a look at the issues from God’s viewpoint (the Bible) and let you make up your own mind.
So it requires resolve at the START – BEFORE you go into a relationship to explain to the other person they will not get sex – any physical with marriage.
Of course holding hands is no sin but as I mentioned one needs to be aware sex is a sliding scale and it’s designed not to be stopped easily so Christian relationships require a strong will and resolve to please God – and crucially not steal something that is actually meant for someone else.
If you answered “no” to any of the above questions, then maybe you should discuss those issues with your boyfriend or girlfriend.
I get asked that question all the time, in reference to physical boundaries when dating. The world’s so-called wisdom would typically say that “it depends.” That’s not very helpful.
It suggests that there is an answer (there is a “too far”), but it is impossible to really say what the answer is.
” To which I might ask: “Why are you trying to get close to sin? Is it because getting close to the edge is exciting?
” Get Off the Roof Say we’re standing on top of a building (for some reason) and you ask how close you can get to the edge. There is only one reason why it is exciting: because there is a very real chance you might fall off. Some people would respond to the question by giving advice that makes it somewhat less dangerous to get close to the edge.